Comments on: Larry King and the San Diego Wildfires http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/ More Money, More Life, More Love. Tue, 22 Jun 2010 14:24:49 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Kathryne Zarraluqui http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-3928 Kathryne Zarraluqui Sat, 13 Feb 2010 16:16:36 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-3928 Well written document that could ideally have lots of impact within the Earth of basic safety. Nicely executed and with luck , it may have a favorable effect. Well written document that could ideally have lots of impact within the Earth of basic safety. Nicely executed and with luck , it may have a favorable effect.

]]> By: Judy Darby http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-1034 Judy Darby Sat, 24 Nov 2007 17:34:31 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-1034 MR Assaraf, blogers and readers all the storys are very uplifting, comforting and enlightening... I have many friends in the affected area as I work in the film industry .. If you think about it,haven't we all been affected by this ... In my community of friends and co-worker we have all become affected, by those effected, and all are working to help those directly ...It is interesting how it can make or break you... But... Aren't we really all connected in this great world, really what affects one can affect another for good or not .... Gratitude is really one of the key factors for survival both mentally and physically ... I have many story's to tell, but will save them for my book ... I'm grateful for my understand of Gods plan, my family, my neighbors, my Great Country, my health and this site, where I come and partake of uplifting hopeful writings ... Gods Blessings On Us All MR Assaraf, blogers and readers
all the storys are very uplifting, comforting and enlightening… I have many friends in the affected area as I work in the film industry .. If you think about it,haven’t we all been affected by this … In my community of friends and co-worker we have all become affected, by those effected, and all are working to help those directly …It is interesting how it can make or break you… But… Aren’t we really all connected in this great world, really what affects one can affect another for good or not ….

Gratitude is really one of the key factors for survival both mentally and physically … I have many story’s to tell, but will save them for my book …

I’m grateful for my understand of Gods plan, my family, my neighbors, my Great Country, my health and this site, where I come and partake of uplifting hopeful writings …
Gods Blessings On Us All

]]> By: Pat Graham-Block http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-944 Pat Graham-Block Mon, 05 Nov 2007 11:58:52 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-944 This was a very enlightening interview. There are so many nuggets of wisdom in this that pertain to how life works, in general. Thanks for all you BE and DO, John! Love, Pat This was a very enlightening interview. There are so many nuggets of wisdom in this that pertain to how life works, in general.

Thanks for all you BE and DO, John!

Love,

Pat

]]> By: Dorothy http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-939 Dorothy Fri, 02 Nov 2007 17:10:47 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-939 " I have learned not to get attached to my materialistic possessions and live my life in constant gratitude of the important things like my health, family and God. " What a wonderful observation, John. Wish a lot of people would take on that attitude...it's hard sometimes...the California fire did not affect me personally, but I used to live there many years ago and to see it all up in smoke, it really saddens me. I plan on making a trip there in the spring to view the devastation...not sure how I'm going to feel about that. ” I have learned not to get attached to my materialistic possessions and live my life in constant gratitude of the important things like my health, family and God. ”

What a wonderful observation, John. Wish a lot of people would take on that attitude…it’s hard sometimes…the California fire did not affect me personally, but I used to live there many years ago and to see it all up in smoke, it really saddens me. I plan on making a trip there in the spring to view the devastation…not sure how I’m going to feel about that.

]]> By: Raymond http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-938 Raymond Thu, 01 Nov 2007 11:52:28 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-938 I saw the fires on CNN and was shocked at how people could be subjected to great loss in a matter of days. I think Larry King got the right party to share on the subject to calm the affected people thank you John for your contribution. I saw the fires on CNN and was shocked at how people could be subjected to great loss in a matter of days. I think Larry King got the right party to share on the subject to calm the affected people thank you John for your contribution.

]]> By: Karin Hiebert http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-935 Karin Hiebert Wed, 31 Oct 2007 13:26:57 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-935 "What we focus on IS what we feel" I have recently learned this and it is so true. I have had a hard time, with "Post Traumatic Stress Disorder" for most of my life. My recent learning from some great therapy, in regards to my thoughts (which were horrific thoughts,memories and flashbacks) I felt as though with every flashback of being sexually and physically abused as a child, I (it) "felt" as tho it was happening in the moment. I became increasingly depressed, as when these thoughts came up, and I focused on them, not because I wanted to focus on them...it was because in my mind and body they WERE happening in the "NOW"... also as you say, we all react diiferenly to trauma...my reaction was to allow these memories to stay in my mind, and to look at them, as well as allowing myself to get into the "feeling" place of it (them) meaning the thoughts were actually happening in the moment. If only I knew then what I know now, about out thoughts, and how to change them, by thought shifting, or becoming more aware of our present surroundings, or focusing on how strong I was to survive such a horrific atrocity... I would have been less likely to fall into a major depressive episode. "so what you say, what we focus on we bring about" couldnt be more true! I "brought about depression" I brought about more flashbacks by focusing on a flashback, and my reaction to the thought and trauma at times was of "disbelief" of how could that have happened to an innocent little girl? So that became my "focus" I thought, how could that have happened,??? it brought about more of "what happened". This became a vicious cycle of thought and feelings... it actually brought about the thoughts of "oh my god, what else happened?" well, my brain answered that question... and brought about more thoughts, memories, thoughts, and feelings of "what else happened!" When I learned, from a great therapist who was teaching me thought stopping, thought shifting, and the idea of focussing on the now...and how great my life is now,,,the flashbacks stopped. The depression lifted, and I gave thanks for my suvival. I gave thanks to my dissociative disorder coping skills I developed as a child, which allowed me to survive that current trauma,,, and gave thanks to now understanding "how our minds work" or can work! My mind now "works" Quite differently, trauma reaction, and my thought of experiencing a trauma such as losing a home, or material things, is much like yours... I would become in a state of gratitude for having what I "do have" and be grateful for those things, like love, acceptance,and even an opportunity to start fresh! This may sound even strange to some people...however, because of my past and present experiences with trauma, and how I now think, has changed tremenously about everything! I focus on the now, which is great, I focus on the present and my children, grandchildren, my health, and even the computer I am using right now to send this message. I focus on my present, and future... my past no longer haunts me, and if a flashback does come up (which inevitably it will and does) I now have the knowledge, the tools, and coping skills, to shift that thought into the present...and focus on the present, not on the past, or that memory. My "feelings are then more in a present state of gratitude" Rather than a feeling of past resentment, discust, or "why me" and feeling sorry for myself and my past! All is well, as I know Have learned the "secrets" I sure hope all of this made sense to you and your readers, this is a difficult one to explain, on how I would feel now if a tragedy, or trauma happened to me now, especially in regards to "material things!" with regards, and respect, your friend Karin Hiebert “What we focus on IS what we feel”

I have recently learned this and it is so true.
I have had a hard time, with “Post Traumatic Stress Disorder” for most of my life.

My recent learning from some great therapy, in regards to my thoughts (which were horrific thoughts,memories and flashbacks)
I felt as though with every flashback of being sexually and physically abused as a child, I (it) “felt” as tho it was happening in the moment.

I became increasingly depressed, as when these thoughts came up, and I focused on them, not because I wanted to focus on them…it was because in my mind and body they WERE happening in the “NOW”… also as you say, we all react diiferenly to trauma…my reaction was to allow these memories to stay in my mind, and to look at them, as well as allowing myself to get into the “feeling” place of it (them) meaning the thoughts were actually happening in the moment.

If only I knew then what I know now, about out thoughts, and how to change them, by thought shifting, or becoming more aware of our present surroundings, or focusing on how strong I was to survive such a horrific atrocity…

I would have been less likely to fall into a major depressive episode.

“so what you say, what we focus on we bring about” couldnt be more true!

I “brought about depression” I brought about more flashbacks by focusing on a flashback, and my reaction to the thought and trauma at times was of “disbelief” of how could that have happened to an innocent little girl?

So that became my “focus”
I thought, how could that have happened,???
it brought about more of “what happened”.

This became a vicious cycle of thought and feelings…

it actually brought about the thoughts of “oh my god, what else happened?”

well, my brain answered that question…
and brought about more thoughts, memories, thoughts, and feelings of “what else happened!”

When I learned, from a great therapist who was teaching me thought stopping, thought shifting, and the idea of focussing on the now…and how great my life is now,,,the flashbacks stopped.

The depression lifted, and I gave thanks for my suvival.

I gave thanks to my dissociative disorder coping skills I developed as a child, which allowed me to survive that current trauma,,, and gave thanks to now understanding “how our minds work”

or can work!

My mind now “works”

Quite differently, trauma reaction, and my thought of experiencing a trauma such as losing a home, or material things, is much like yours…

I would become in a state of gratitude for having what I “do have” and be grateful for those things, like love, acceptance,and even an opportunity to start fresh!

This may sound even strange to some people…however, because of my past and present experiences with trauma, and how I now think, has changed tremenously about everything!

I focus on the now, which is great, I focus on the present and my children, grandchildren, my health, and even the computer I am using right now to send this message.

I focus on my present, and future…

my past no longer haunts me, and if a flashback does come up (which inevitably it will and does)

I now have the knowledge, the tools, and coping skills, to shift that thought into the present…and focus on the present, not on the past, or that memory.

My “feelings are then more in a present state of gratitude”

Rather than a feeling of past resentment, discust, or “why me” and feeling sorry for myself and my past!

All is well, as I know Have learned the “secrets”

I sure hope all of this made sense to you and your readers,

this is a difficult one to explain, on how I would feel now if a tragedy, or trauma happened to me now,

especially in regards to “material things!”

with regards, and respect,

your friend
Karin Hiebert

]]> By: Barbara Spriggs http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-933 Barbara Spriggs Wed, 31 Oct 2007 05:41:03 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-933 When disaster strikes it seems people show love toward each other and are more careing. For some it is a wake up call, we need each other. I too had my home and everything in it burn. It is a loss of items that sometimes cannot be replaced but they were only things. People are what make the difference. They came to my rescue. Thanks When disaster strikes it seems people show love toward each other and are more careing. For some it is a wake up call, we need each other. I too had my home and everything in it burn. It is a loss of items that sometimes cannot be replaced but they were only things. People are what make the difference. They came to my rescue. Thanks

]]> By: John Assaraf http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-930 John Assaraf Tue, 30 Oct 2007 15:26:46 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-930 Thanks for all the great comments. We are all so very fortunate! Life is percious and the things we value most show up quickly when things like this happen. Thanks for all the great comments. We are all so very fortunate! Life is percious and the things we value most show up quickly when things like this happen.

]]> By: EDGAR S. RULONA http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-928 EDGAR S. RULONA Tue, 30 Oct 2007 13:17:44 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-928 If I was one of those people who have fires close to my home like the one in San Diego California, I would have tried to salvage things which could be saved and then accept God's verdict if it would be burned or not. Money, houses and material things lost can be reacquired again as long as you are alive and healthy enough and I would be very thankful still that I'm still alive and that nobody died or lost his/her limb within my family members because of the wild fires. Who knows in the next house that I will construct, I will become even more happy and lucky on that new home. Looking back thru life with its ups and downs, I could always say that even the bad things that happened before have very beautiful reasons why it happened for as long as you are able to move on. I'm a practitioner of Maharishi's transcendental meditation and eversince my first practice, I'm not anymore so much attached to my material possessions. If I was one of those people who have fires close to my home like the one in San Diego California, I would have tried to salvage things which could be saved and then accept God’s verdict if it would be burned or not. Money, houses and material things lost can be reacquired again as long as you are alive and healthy enough and I would be very thankful still that I’m still alive and that nobody died or lost his/her limb within my family members because of the wild fires. Who knows in the next house that I will construct, I will become even more happy and lucky on that new home. Looking back thru life with its ups and downs, I could always say that even the bad things that happened before have very beautiful reasons why it happened for as long as you are able to move on. I’m a practitioner of Maharishi’s transcendental meditation and eversince my first practice, I’m not anymore so much attached to my material possessions.

]]> By: Angela http://www.johnassaraf.com/my-life/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/comment-page-1/#comment-927 Angela Tue, 30 Oct 2007 02:44:22 +0000 http://www.johnassaraf.com/blog/2007/10/29/larry-king-and-the-san-diego-wildfires/#comment-927 Thanks for sharing with us. We are grateful that you and so many others were so fortunate during the fires. We appreciate alll that you do. Thanks for sharing with us. We are grateful that you and so many others were so fortunate during the fires. We appreciate alll that you do.

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