by John Assaraf

What is your true net worth?

Hi friends,

So many people look at their financial status as an indicator of their net worth and I frankly don’t agree with this logic.

We are so caught up in our society by seeing how much each of us has financially but the true picture can’t be that shallow or empty. How can we allow green paper with ink on it to define our “net worth”?

Let me walk you through what I see as the real measure of your true “Net Worth.”

Our lives are multi faceted and thank god we are all created with a multitude of talents, abilities and varying interests. What if we started to look at our true net worth by looking at life as it is, and not just through the jaded eyes of finances.

Since we all basically are playing six games simultaneously, lets measure each section and give each one a point factor that determines the “net worth” of each section. The areas to consider are. Spiritual, Relationships, Contribution, Financial, Health and Career.

So for example…

We all have relationships with friends, family, co-workers, maybe kids, etc. So ask yourself on a scale of one to 10, what point value do you give your relationship with…

Your kids, your spouse, your best friends, your colleagues, etc.

Give each one a point value and then I move on to another section.

What you’ll find as I have, is that you may be at a 10 in contribution but a 6 financially. Relationships and spirituality may be at a 9 and health may be slightly lagging behind.

In either case, I’ll bet you that when you look at the whole picture rather than just a small part like money, you’ll see that your “Real Net Worth” is much greater than you gave yourself credit for.

We all go through the ups and downs of life and I find it easier to go through them when I refer to an area that is peaking versus and area that is not doing as well. It’s the ebb and flow of life and nobody is impervious to it.

Start to look at yourself and your life on many fronts and you’ll always be able to find an area that you are content with or can quickly improve.

Learn to change what you can and let go of what you can’t.

I wish you a great day and remember to smile; you just might make someone else smile as well.

And, pass this blog to friends and colleagues.

John

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  • http://www.derekbowler.com Derek Bowler

    Many Thanks John,
    The more we study and immerse ourselves in our total picture the more we realise that certain aspects of our life do not gel.
    I have always had a passion for helping people because I have always felt wealthy and now I project myself as someone who “is on your side”.
    But sometimes, if it does’nt feel right, it is far better to just walk away with the thought that sometimes people just don’t want helping, it’s not their fault it’s the way they have been brought up to think, sad but true.
    As James Ray say’s – “avoid anything that weakens you” –
    My Daily Motto – It’s not about the Money, it’s about the Mission !

  • http://www.derekbowler.com Derek Bowler

    Many Thanks John,
    The more we study and immerse ourselves in our total picture the more we realise that certain aspects of our life do not gel.
    I have always had a passion for helping people because I have always felt wealthy and now I project myself as someone who “is on your side”.
    But sometimes, if it does’nt feel right, it is far better to just walk away with the thought that sometimes people just don’t want helping, it’s not their fault it’s the way they have been brought up to think, sad but true.
    As James Ray say’s – “avoid anything that weakens you” –
    My Daily Motto – It’s not about the Money, it’s about the Mission !

  • Spiro

    I look at it this way, your spirit is the only real part of you. In turn if you dedicate your real value to your spirit it will only enhance the other five in its appropriate timings, thus nothing is left to chance and thus you will live a truly enligthened life, at leas this is how i look at it. I also think that John puts it very well, if your looking to truly enhance your value, have a look at this link, i believe this gentleman is the best person i have come across when dealing with emotions, value and really contributing to enhancing your entire being.
    http://www.join-the-fun.com/value.html
    This man is real about helping you attain real value and if you can find that value, first with spirit everything else in your life will be as beautiful as you want it to be, well wishes to all

  • Spiro

    I look at it this way, your spirit is the only real part of you. In turn if you dedicate your real value to your spirit it will only enhance the other five in its appropriate timings, thus nothing is left to chance and thus you will live a truly enligthened life, at leas this is how i look at it. I also think that John puts it very well, if your looking to truly enhance your value, have a look at this link, i believe this gentleman is the best person i have come across when dealing with emotions, value and really contributing to enhancing your entire being.
    http://www.join-the-fun.com/value.html
    This man is real about helping you attain real value and if you can find that value, first with spirit everything else in your life will be as beautiful as you want it to be, well wishes to all

  • Maryam M. Ismail

    Thank you, John. This is truly inspiring.

  • Maryam M. Ismail

    Thank you, John. This is truly inspiring.

  • http://www.cookevillerealty.com peterg

    My Ma would tell me that, if you are prepared to get up in the morning and go to work,anything you want is possible.I will take your advice and work on the pillars of life.Thank you John.

  • http://www.cookevillerealty.com peterg

    My Ma would tell me that, if you are prepared to get up in the morning and go to work,anything you want is possible.I will take your advice and work on the pillars of life.Thank you John.

  • Brown Eyed Girl

    Thanks John
    I am learning a lot! what an eye opner for me

  • EDGAR S. RULONA

    Thank you John. You have improved our awareness about the true meaning of our self worth. I used to think of the former until you enlightened me of the latter. Thank you very much. You made me smile…

  • EDGAR S. RULONA

    Thank you John. You have improved our awareness about the true meaning of our self worth. I used to think of the former until you enlightened me of the latter. Thank you very much. You made me smile…

  • http://thewittypen.com doran

    So very true John. All too often we foolishly measure our prosperity against monetary value. Similar to your discussion, I try to focus on my improvements and increases in all those areas of my life and view the progress made. When the downtimes are upon me, if I reflect upon the improvements I have made in all areas of my life, I feel renewed and measurably valuable and feel I am truly living a prosperous life.

  • http://thewittypen.com doran

    So very true John. All too often we foolishly measure our prosperity against monetary value. Similar to your discussion, I try to focus on my improvements and increases in all those areas of my life and view the progress made. When the downtimes are upon me, if I reflect upon the improvements I have made in all areas of my life, I feel renewed and measurably valuable and feel I am truly living a prosperous life.

  • Luis Trejo

    For all of you reading the blog (What is your net worth), I send you a SMILE.

  • Luis Trejo

    For all of you reading the blog (What is your net worth), I send you a SMILE.

  • Christina Lanzer

    We all need money in this life to surive. Money brings us many great thing, but when I look into my granddaughter eyes, I find pure joy, and happiness and I know how much wealth I have being with all my family.

  • Christina Lanzer

    We all need money in this life to surive. Money brings us many great thing, but when I look into my granddaughter eyes, I find pure joy, and happiness and I know how much wealth I have being with all my family.

  • Steve Warrillow

    I couldn’t agree more John. I have always tried to smile, regardless of the days circumstances. I find a smile contageous. always nice to see and to portray. Can change your whole mood in an instant.

  • Steve Warrillow

    I couldn’t agree more John. I have always tried to smile, regardless of the days circumstances. I find a smile contageous. always nice to see and to portray. Can change your whole mood in an instant.

  • George Britto

    Fully agree with you.If we change our persepective accordingly we can live a much fuller life. Thanks John.

  • George Britto

    Fully agree with you.If we change our persepective accordingly we can live a much fuller life. Thanks John.

  • Lorne

    Aldo Huxley wrote about this topic many years ago. The title was a Brave New World. Native people around the world, who do not use currency, look after one another. Sadly, in a monied system looking after one and another gets expensive. We don`t all play by the same laws. Warmly, Lorne.

  • Lorne

    Aldo Huxley wrote about this topic many years ago. The title was a Brave New World. Native people around the world, who do not use currency, look after one another. Sadly, in a monied system looking after one and another gets expensive. We don`t all play by the same laws. Warmly, Lorne.

  • Karen

    Yes, I agree with your comments. We need to be balanced human beings and learn to work on all areas. I think I’m doing very well. I know I can definitely improve in some; but, can’t we all.

  • Karen

    Yes, I agree with your comments. We need to be balanced human beings and learn to work on all areas. I think I’m doing very well. I know I can definitely improve in some; but, can’t we all.

  • http://www.CHROMEDREAMS.com Deckerron

    Sound thought. It goes right along with something else I read recently that stated; “How well we’re doing is not necessarily measured by how much we make, but by our net worth”. Understanding the truer definition of “net worth” helps to put that in even better perspective.

  • http://www.CHROMEDREAMS.com Deckerron

    Sound thought. It goes right along with something else I read recently that stated; “How well we’re doing is not necessarily measured by how much we make, but by our net worth”. Understanding the truer definition of “net worth” helps to put that in even better perspective.

  • retired620

    Thank you John for this, I would give every area of my life a 10 and my friends & family over 10. My life is wonderful in all aspects. I recently hired a life coach and we basically worked on my health issues. I’m a very powerful, enlightened woman.

  • retired620

    Thank you John for this, I would give every area of my life a 10 and my friends & family over 10. My life is wonderful in all aspects. I recently hired a life coach and we basically worked on my health issues. I’m a very powerful, enlightened woman.

  • Penelope

    Yeah, it’s a nice reminder of what my parents taught us. Count your blessings daily. Or, as we all say now: feel gratitude.

  • Penelope

    Yeah, it’s a nice reminder of what my parents taught us. Count your blessings daily. Or, as we all say now: feel gratitude.

  • Elyse

    Thank you, John. I had just been filling in the workbook for Having It All. I had purposely left the net worth line blank. Whereas, I had appreciated looking at the many different aspects of life,to get it down to a small space recording net worth felt uncomfortable. Your article validated this feeling.

  • Elyse

    Thank you, John. I had just been filling in the workbook for Having It All. I had purposely left the net worth line blank. Whereas, I had appreciated looking at the many different aspects of life,to get it down to a small space recording net worth felt uncomfortable. Your article validated this feeling.

  • bright

    I think you have mention the great things. What is the meaning for the contribution mentioned in the six part of areas of life we must measure our net worth.

  • bright

    I think you have mention the great things. What is the meaning for the contribution mentioned in the six part of areas of life we must measure our net worth.

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