by John Assaraf

How do you talk to yourself?

I have been doing quite a bit of research on the power of our “self-talk” and the amount of negative stuff that goes on in one’s mind is staggering.

It actually isn’t surprising when over 90 percent of what is on television and all around us points to negative news or lack.

We’re actually trained to look for what’s bad or what can hurt us before we are ever trained on seeing what’s good or possible.

We are wired to “see” negative all around us and it’s time to stop. The results are devastating and ruining many people’s lives.

I find people will fall into one of four categories:

To understand their true power, look at the language that goes with each category.

Negative Self-Talk

I am not good enough
I am not smart enough
I am not young or old enough
I am not the right color
I am not this or that; you can fill in your own blanks here
I can’t do this or that because…

And then we make up a story to justify the reason. For the most part these are lies!

The Result: A life of lack and limitation backed by doubts, fears and pain. Negative self-image.

Neutral Self-Talk

I should get busier
I should get a better job
I should find a better partner
I should lose weight
I should stop procrastinating
I should…

These people are living on the negative side of comfort and will remain that way until the pain of mediocrity gets to them.

The Result: A very average life that feels it is being wasted. Possibly comfortable, but not totally engaged and pretty average. Average self-image.

Positive Self-Talk

I can or will do that
I am smart enough
I am good enough
I can or will learn that
I can and will change
I can and will overcome this
I can and will adapt to…
I can and I will find out how to…

The Result: A life that feels worthwhile and capable. Usually high self-worth and positively comfortable. Life is very enjoyable here.

Let me suggest that there is yet another breed of Self-Talk is emerging and it’s called:

Enlightened Self-Talk

GOD loves everyone, including me
GOD is in everyone, including me
Love is for everyone, including me
Peace is for everyone, including me
Happiness is for everyone, including me
Abundance is for everyone, including me
Health is for everyone, including me
Joy is for everyone, including me
Fun is for everyone, including me
Smiles are in everyone, including me
Faith is in everyone, ESPECIALLY ME

The Result: An entire society of individuals that respect themselves and each other which leads to highly productive people living their life the way our creator intended them to live-with total abundance and joy.

Please choose to live in an enlightened world with our fellow citizens and me.

Best,

John

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  • Jennifer

    Thanks John. Becoming and staying conscious is such a concsious effort! Definately worth the effort when you realise the power of thought. Carolann is right…..What an awesome difference it would make to the world if this were taught to children!
    Be well.

  • Jennifer

    Thanks John. Becoming and staying conscious is such a concsious effort! Definately worth the effort when you realise the power of thought. Carolann is right…..What an awesome difference it would make to the world if this were taught to children!
    Be well.

  • Tom

    Yes, but how?

    How does one go from negative to positive (let alone enlightened) self-talk?

  • Tom

    Yes, but how?

    How does one go from negative to positive (let alone enlightened) self-talk?

  • Arwa

    I loved it, it’s so true, thank you John, god bless you

  • Arwa

    I loved it, it’s so true, thank you John, god bless you

  • Carolann

    Powerful….Your work needs to be in the schools.
    Help the children, please!!!!

  • Carolann

    Powerful….Your work needs to be in the schools.
    Help the children, please!!!!

  • Bayar

    Thank you John, what a great description. I have bits and pieces of all the talks in me. I’ll focus on the enlightened talk. Thank you so much for reminding. Best wishes!

  • Theresa H

    I loved this blog –I completely agree–Thank you!

  • Theresa H

    I loved this blog –I completely agree–Thank you!

  • http://www.yogaofthemind.com David Stevens

    It is both insighful and useful that you have four catagories of self talk, with great examples of each. Living concept of enlightened self talk is my next step.

  • http://www.yogaofthemind.com David Stevens

    It is both insighful and useful that you have four catagories of self talk, with great examples of each. Living concept of enlightened self talk is my next step.

  • Joanne

    We are all trully blessed, including me. I am very grateful for people like you who remind me to be and live enlightenment. Thank you.

  • Joanne

    We are all trully blessed, including me. I am very grateful for people like you who remind me to be and live enlightenment. Thank you.

  • Raymond

    Thank you John, I have always thought there is only the -ve and +ve self talk. I am a +ve self talker but now I see why sometimes things work different from my intentions. This is when I gravitate to the neutral self talk. NOW I KNOW

  • Raymond

    Thank you John, I have always thought there is only the -ve and +ve self talk. I am a +ve self talker but now I see why sometimes things work different from my intentions. This is when I gravitate to the neutral self talk. NOW I KNOW

  • maaseni

    Thank you John. This makes me look at things in a different light.

  • maaseni

    Thank you John. This makes me look at things in a different light.

  • Ann

    I do a lot of self-talk. It seems to help me accomplish things. I think most of my self talk is positive. It is nice to be reminded that what I tell myself should be good. thanks

  • Ann

    I do a lot of self-talk. It seems to help me accomplish things. I think most of my self talk is positive. It is nice to be reminded that what I tell myself should be good. thanks

  • Eleni

    I always try to think positive although sometimes everyday situations become overwelming, and I find myself having doubts which cause the goals I have set for myself to become void. I’ll consciously use the “enlightening self talk” each morning and every chance I get throught the day. I have accomplished many things in the last year with positive thinking that I didn’t think I would be able to accomplish. I’ll use the enlightened self talk to help me get to my long term goals successfully.
    Thank you for your guidance and God Bless
    E

  • Eleni

    I always try to think positive although sometimes everyday situations become overwelming, and I find myself having doubts which cause the goals I have set for myself to become void. I’ll consciously use the “enlightening self talk” each morning and every chance I get throught the day. I have accomplished many things in the last year with positive thinking that I didn’t think I would be able to accomplish. I’ll use the enlightened self talk to help me get to my long term goals successfully.
    Thank you for your guidance and God Bless
    E

  • http://www.freewebs.com/lifeimprovingproducts Peter H.

    Very interesting, helpful thoughts re: Enlightened Self -Talk, a step beyond “Positive Self Talk…..helpful for me in my spiritual journey John! Thankyou!….sent a copy to my Fiance’

  • http://www.freewebs.com/lifeimprovingproducts Peter H.

    Very interesting, helpful thoughts re: Enlightened Self -Talk, a step beyond “Positive Self Talk…..helpful for me in my spiritual journey John! Thankyou!….sent a copy to my Fiance’

  • donnymac

    My biggest regret in life is that I didn’t find out about enlightenment and the laws of attraction sooner. Those of us new to the reality you put before us can not get enough, fast enough or understanding enough of the enlightened way. Thank God we have awakened to this new way of living and life, and thank God for your teachings.

  • http://www.formerfatguyblog.com Rob

    John, I’ve been in positive self talk for years now, but you’ve just inspired me to begin enlightened self talk. I totally understand the concept of why, has just never considered it.

    thank you for the refresher

  • http://www.formerfatguyblog.com Rob

    John, I’ve been in positive self talk for years now, but you’ve just inspired me to begin enlightened self talk. I totally understand the concept of why, has just never considered it.

    thank you for the refresher

  • Cate

    God loves you, and loves me too.

  • Cate

    God loves you, and loves me too.

  • Jodi

    Thank you for the wake up of attitude. Even tho I am a devote believer in good self talk, using it to its fullest degree is the best way to go.

  • Jodi

    Thank you for the wake up of attitude. Even tho I am a devote believer in good self talk, using it to its fullest degree is the best way to go.

  • Spiro

    a year ago i was netural, six months ago, i was positive, today i am enlightened and its great! the best part about enlightment is you truly help the ones you love, once you get there going back is never an option, remember its a state not a belief or faith but a state, god bless you all

  • Spiro

    a year ago i was netural, six months ago, i was positive, today i am enlightened and its great! the best part about enlightment is you truly help the ones you love, once you get there going back is never an option, remember its a state not a belief or faith but a state, god bless you all

  • http://www.campcreative.com.au Robbie Spence

    I love the ‘enlightened self talk’. The thing that helps me too is remembering to be grateful for my life and what I have.

  • http://www.campcreative.com.au Robbie Spence

    I love the ‘enlightened self talk’. The thing that helps me too is remembering to be grateful for my life and what I have.

  • maria guadalupe crespo

    Thank You John, I really love what have you written in your report. Thank you for remind me my real soul. Congratulations.

  • maria guadalupe crespo

    Thank You John, I really love what have you written in your report. Thank you for remind me my real soul. Congratulations.

  • http://krysofeurope.blogtoolkit.com Krystyna

    John, we need your reminder. Thank you for calming down us. I work on myself daily by good inner talk, attitude.

  • http://krysofeurope.blogtoolkit.com Krystyna

    John, we need your reminder. Thank you for calming down us. I work on myself daily by good inner talk, attitude.

  • Marti Byczek

    Amazing! I spent today wondering how to motivate myself to go from what I now know to be neutral self-talk to spiritual self-talk. As I repeat these words for 21 days, I will have a new habit-a new way of thinking. What a great power surge. Thank you.

  • Marti Byczek

    Amazing! I spent today wondering how to motivate myself to go from what I now know to be neutral self-talk to spiritual self-talk. As I repeat these words for 21 days, I will have a new habit-a new way of thinking. What a great power surge. Thank you.

  • Ronit Erlich

    thank you for inspiring me
    when i read the word my soul woke up
    my soul have the memory of these words
    but my mind keep repiting the negative words why and when it is all started? i want to adapt the enighten way
    thanks again

  • Ronit Erlich

    thank you for inspiring me
    when i read the word my soul woke up
    my soul have the memory of these words
    but my mind keep repiting the negative words why and when it is all started? i want to adapt the enighten way
    thanks again

  • Annette

    John, thank you for the enlightened self-talk. I have used affirmations for years and they *do* make a difference. I’m looking forward to using them.

  • Annette

    John, thank you for the enlightened self-talk. I have used affirmations for years and they *do* make a difference. I’m looking forward to using them.

  • http://www.seriousvanity.com/ Dana Detrick-Clark

    I’m so glad you brought up the neutral self-talk, because so many times it gets overlooked! I know I personally have struggled with the ‘shoulds’ without ever realizing how detrimental they are.

    I love the enlightened self-talk! So inclusive and beautiful!

  • http://www.seriousvanity.com/ Dana Detrick-Clark

    I’m so glad you brought up the neutral self-talk, because so many times it gets overlooked! I know I personally have struggled with the ‘shoulds’ without ever realizing how detrimental they are.

    I love the enlightened self-talk! So inclusive and beautiful!

  • http://teamtotalwellness.com theresa

    Thanks John for the reminder, I am good at positive self talk and do not think about what you call enlightened self talk in my day to day talk. Instead I tend to use that only in affirmations or specific cases. What a good reminder to incorporate it MORE!

    t

  • http://teamtotalwellness.com theresa

    Thanks John for the reminder, I am good at positive self talk and do not think about what you call enlightened self talk in my day to day talk. Instead I tend to use that only in affirmations or specific cases. What a good reminder to incorporate it MORE!

    t

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